“Nobody asked me to explain why Sunday lunch at my in-laws' is not optional. I could just start from there.”
Mehreen A.
Therapy and family honor
Honoring your family without losing yourself
For many South Asian adults, family is love, duty, pride and pressure in the same sentence. Therapy here makes room for all four.
You do not have to stop loving or respecting anyone to say what is hard. Our job is to help you think clearly about what you owe, what you want and what you can offer, at a pace you set.
What we will not ask of you
Four promises about family
To choose between family and yourself
Most people do not want to. We help you look for what is possible between the two.
To explain your customs
We know the Sunday lunch, the shared calendar and the aunt whose opinion counts. You can begin from there.
To bring anyone you would rather leave out
A parent, partner or sibling joins a session only when you ask.
To tell your family what you say
What you say is private, with the limits the law sets. We never report to a relative, even one who pays.
How family can be in the room
Three ways, all of them optional
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Step 1: Not at all
Most individual therapy has no one else in it. Family is a subject, not a guest.
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Step 2: For one session
You invite a parent, partner or sibling for a single session, with a plan you set beforehand.
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Step 3: As part of the work
Family sessions run alongside your own, with a therapist who does not take sides.
In clients' words
What the room felt like
“My mother and I sat in the same room with a therapist who greeted her in Gujarati first. She stayed for the whole hour, which I did not expect.”
Ishaan P.
“The office was quiet and the tea was already poured. It sounds small. It told me I was expected.”
Adnan R.
Sample reviews.
What stays private
What stays private, and its limits
What you say in your own sessions is private. We do not share it with a parent, partner or in-law, including one who pays for your sessions or who asks us directly.
There are limits the law sets: when someone is in immediate danger, when a court orders records, and in a few other cases. Before your first session we explain them in writing, and you can ask us about them at any time.
In a family or couples session, what each person says belongs to the room. We agree with everyone beforehand what may be repeated outside it.
Ready to begin, on your terms?
Write to us and tell us who you would like in the room, and who you would not. We reply within one business day.